Paul wrote to the Roman church that one of the main goals of believers is to display a lifestyle of peace.[1] God’s character is one of peace and meekness. In order for me to handle the conflict, one must first talk to God and asked for forgiveness and grace to handle it. Instead of “getting even” or “doing what makes me happy” it must change to focusing upon honoring God’s declaration of peace.

It is important to note that when handling the beginning of conflict resolution, it needs to be light and headed into a clear discussion. God has been working on my heart on having a clear conscience. I have found that through this process it has brought me more peace in my heart. My hero in life is my Dad who exemplified and taught me that a wise man does not hold grudges against people who have hurt him.[2] Through growing up in a ministry household I learned firsthand that peacemaking is a vital tool for every person to live out.

Peace is connected with trust. Without faith in God, true and lasting peace will not become a reality. During conflict I have learned that God is in control even when I do not feel like it. Instead of looking at situations as happening by chance, I have learned that God has allowed it to open my eyes to my need for humility.

During conflict it is easy to allow feelings and hurt to dictate how we respond versus trusting God. My goal is to continue to look at my past relationships, current relationships, and future relationships with faith that God knows and has plans to mend broken hearts. My prayer is to trust God no matter the cost and to rely on the Holy Spirit for guidance in order to respond with His heart and wisdom.

[1] “It is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone (Romans 12:18).

[2] “A man's wisdom gives him patience; it is to his glory to overlook an offense.” Proverbs 19:11