Leadership

Forgiveness and Restoration

All throughout scripture, life and history, people are searching for meaning and restoration in their life. The question of forgiveness comes up through human relationships on a continuous basis. Leaders are surrounded by conflict that can easily lead to bitterness if left unresolved. The story of man in the Garden of Eden portrays a perfect beginning with God. Through sin, the relationship with God was severed and the need for redemption and forgiveness of sin entered man’s heart. Adam and Eve were created in a harmonious relationship with God and creation. God’s perfect standard of not eating from the tree of knowledge of good and evil was broken by Adam and Eve’s decision. The severed relationship left a gap that can only be filled through an act of God.

The story of mankind began anew with the greatest need being the redemption back to God. This quote explains further, “To confess that God is triune is to affirm that the eternal life of God is personal life in relationship. The Bible speaks of God as “the living God”(Matt. 16:16). God is not like the dead idols who can neither speak nor act. God speaks and acts creatively, redemptively, transformativley.”[1] God promises his hope and redemption to man through the power of the cross. God’s plan is to draw men back to Himself through the forgiveness that is available through the cross and resurrection of Christ.

The definition of forgiveness in the Word Study Dictionary states, “To loose, loosen what is fast, bound, meaning to unbind, untie.”[2] Through life’s hardships and the damaging stain of sin upon mankind, there is a need of restoration. Jesus set an example of leading the disciples to forgive. Peter questions Jesus on forgiveness, “On one occasion Peter came to Jesus (on behalf of the disciples, no doubt) and asked how often he should forgive a brother who sinned against him: as many as seven times? Jesus’ reply to Peter which has been interpreted as “77 times” or “490 times,” indicates the persistent, relentless nature of the love that is to be characteristic of a follower of the Lord.”[3] The true definition of the measure of our forgiveness is equaled to the pardon of all of our sin on the cross. Colossians 3:13 says, “Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.[4] Leaders must set the example by first realizing they have been forgiven of much and to set the standard of forgiving others. Gangel explains further, “the Christian leader’s behavior towards other people is determined by inner qualities. To put it another way, interpersonal relations on a horizontal plane arise from the impersonal relationship with God on a vertical plane.”[5] Forgiveness is not an option for a leader, but is a priority.

Leaders have to realize that conflict will arise through interpersonal relationships and situations. A wise leader knows how to suspect when conflict arises and find a solution. The need for resolution is, “A re-establishment of personal relations after a rupture.”[6] In order for this quote to be true, there must be an acceptance and ownership of faults. God’s forgiveness is seen through the acceptance that man’s sin was why Jesus had to be sacrificed on the cross. The precursor to understanding fully the forgiveness of God, there must be an acceptance of fault. Man is tainted with sin and is depraved and unable to help himself. In David Jeremiah’s book he explains more on depravity, “we would prefer to reserve such a term for child abusers, pornographers, and terrorists. But Paul shakes his head sadly and says none of us is righteous. No, not one.”[7] The truth is that the good news of the hope of forgiveness in Christ is only good if a leader understands what they are being forgiven from. The book explains further, “The only requirement comes in two supreme realizations: first, that we are totally contaminated; second, that we are totally forgiven only through the love and grace and sacrifice of our Lord Jesus Christ.[8] God ultimately is not just a manager that desires to isolate mankind with rules and regulations. God desires to be in right relationships as a person leads. Much is to be said of a leader’s lifestyle outside of the spotlight.

The most important aspect is of forgiveness is to understand it and apply it to leadership. Love and forgiveness, though not synonymous, are interrelated. Leaders must decide to make forgiveness a way of life in order to make peace with others. Forgiveness is impossible unless we allow love to control: "And over all these virtues [mercy, kindness, humility] put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity"[9]

God’s love is synonymous with His forgiveness for man. Leaders must be captivated by the continuing love and grace of God. This quote is excellent in explaining God’s love, “God’s love is his holy disposition toward all that he has created that compels him to express unconditional affection and selective correction to provide the highest quality of existence, both now and forever, for the object of his love.[10] The same principle applies to leadership and how a person treats the congregation. It is easy to lose sight of the need for encouragement and unconditional love for those who are in desperate need for guidance in today’s unforgiving culture. This quote by Walter Wright sums it up well, “Without forgiveness, we would never commit ourselves to the interdependent relationships of our communities. But forgiveness comes with the gift of leadership. It is the empowering side of accountability. And forgiveness flows from the heart of the leader’s relationship with God.”[11] God's forgiveness leads to restoration!


[1] Daniel L. Migliore. Faith Seeking Understanding: An Introduction to Christian Theology. (Grand Rapids, MI: Eerdmans Publishing Company, 1991, 67).

[2] Spiros Zodhiates, The Complete Word Study Dictionary: For a Deeper Understanding of the Word. (Chattanooga, TN: AMG Publishers, 1992, 931).

[3] Millard J. Erickson. Christian Theology. Second edition. (Grand Rapids, MI: Baker books, 1998, 323).

[4] The Holy Bible. New International Version.

[5] Gangel, Kenneth. Team Leadership in Christian Ministry. (Chicago, IL: Moody Press, 1997).

[6] W. R. F. Browning, Forgiveness. (A Dictionary of the Bible. 1997).

[7] David Jeremiah. Captured by Grace: No One is Beyond the Reach of a Loving God. (Nashville, TN: Integrity Publishers, 2006, 32).

[8] David Jeremiah. Captured by Grace: No One is Beyond the Reach of a Loving God. (Nashville, TN: Integrity Publishers, 2006, 33).

[9] Colossians 3:14. The Holy Bible.

[10] Chip Ingram. God as He Longs For You to See Him. (Grand Rapids, MI: BakerBooks, 2004, 181).

[11] Walter C. Wright, Relational Leadership, 2.

 

Forgiveness Applied to Relationships

In the realm of life dealing with tough situations and relationships, the truth of forgiveness will be tested. God desires this type of response, “The truth, you see, is that when your life becomes a temple, a home for Jesus, you begin to treat them as you would treat Him. You begin to realize that all ground is holy ground, because God is there. You begin to see every situation as a potential act of worship, a time to magnify the name of the Lord.”[1] God promises his hope and redemption to man through the power of the cross. God’s plan is to draw men back to Himself through the forgiveness that is available through the cross and resurrection of Christ.

The local church is the biblical pattern that God calls each person to find community and acceptance in order to live a Christ-centered life. This quote explains, “The Holy Spirit often gives us the conviction that God has spoken through the Church by showing us that the church is the community in whom and through whom God does his work in the world.[2]

Relationships that are grounded in the forgiveness from God vertically will be able to give forgiveness out horizontally to others. Now Jesus turns to believers and commands them to forgive in the same way, even when it means paying for the offense - just as Jesus did for His children. We see this concept in the freedom of God’s people after the exodus and then as enjoyed in their own land. This is the sense that the Pharisees intended when they boasted to Jesus that they, “have never yet been enslaved to anyone” (John 8:3 NASB)”[3] In forgiveness, letting go of and releasing resentment is the constant that is demanded always by love.

As believers, we are to extend the love and hope of Christ to a dying and hurting world. This quote explains further, “Christians must fearlessly, boldly, and enthusiastically tell a hurting world that Jesus loves them.[4] This type of lifestyle is only lived through the power of Christ in a person’s life. The goal must be to seek God’s standard and attributes when it comes to relationships to other people. How is the church to respond to the culture surrounding them that are far from God? This quote explains, “As the Christian culture around is more or less holy, so these Christians are more or less holy. But God has not called us to be like those around us. He has called us to be like Himself. Holiness is nothing less than conformity to the character of God.”[5] When God’s Spirit fills a person’s life and they extend God’s grace and forgiveness, people will respond to the message of salvation.

Forgiveness is more than a moment in time, but a lifestyle of releasing people and situations to God. This quote explains further, “purge yourself of your relational faults by taking an inventory of how you put your interests ahead of His and getting rid of anything that blocks intimacy with Him. Approach God just as you are, tuning in to your passion to know Him and to honor Him above all others.[6] Leaders have an obligation through the forgiveness of the cross to be God’s ambassadors of hope to a dying world. A leader is not simply a “doormat” that people walk over, but they set an example of a shepherd to lead the flock of God. Scripture explains many illustrations of a shepherd. A shepherd is someone who is gentle at heart but has a solid heart to obey and follow God. Jesus was described as a shepherd, “But you, Bethlehem, in the land of Judah, are the not the least among the rulers of Judah; for out of you shall come a Ruler who will shepherd My people Israel” (Matt. 2:6, Micah 5:2).[7] A shepherd leader is able to understand the hurts of their followers and gently lead them to be passionate about forgiveness in order to be free to serve Christ.

Dealing with tough relationships is a reality of everyday life. The question is will a person respond or react to frustrating times of life? The answer to this question is clearly, “In situations we can not change, the only healthy response is humility. Though it may sound trite or ineffectual, we must leave it all to God, knowing He will take care of us.”[8] Our response to other people directly affects our relationship with God. John Maxwell states, “Relationships are the glue that holds team members together.[9] Leaders are to be set free from bitterness in order to reveal a Christ-like example in leadership. Forgiveness is much more than an idea but an action that must be applied to relationships.


[1] David Jeremiah. My Heart’s Desire: Living Every Moment in the Wonder of Worship. (Nashville, TN: Broadman and Holman Publishers, 1994. 46).

[2] Michael J. Murray. Reason for the Hope Within. (Grand Rapids, MI: Eerdmans Publishing Co, 1999, 158).

[3] R.K. McGregor Wright. No Place for Sovereignty: What’s Wrong with Freewill Theism. (Downers Grove, IL Intervarsity Press, 1996).

[4] Thom Rainer. The Unexpected Journey: Conversations with people who turned from other beliefs to Jesus. (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan Publishing, 2005, 44).

[5] Jerry Bridges. The Pursuit of Holiness. (Colorado Springs, CO: Navpress, 1996, 22).

[6] Larry Crabb. The Papa Prayer: The Prayer You Have Never Prayed. (Nashville, TN: Integrity Publishers, 2006, 78).

[7] Towns, Elmer. The Good Book on Leadership: Case Studies from the Bible. (Nashville, TN: Broadman and Holman Publishers, 2005, 211-212).

[8] David Jeremiah. Searching for Heaven and Earth: How to Find What Really Matters in Life. (Nashville, TN: Integrity Publishers, 2004, 218-219).

[9] Maxwell, John. The 17 Essential Qualities of a Team Player. Nashville, TN: Thomas Nelson Publishers, 2002, 110).

 

The Battle for Integrity

"Whoever walks in integrity walks securely, but he who makes his ways crooked will be found out." Proverbs 10:9

Integrity is the foundation of longevity in ministry and relationships. In today's culture, morality is becoming a slippery slope of excuses that can lead to a fall. It seems like each week or so I hear of another well known leader fall morally. I do not know about you, but for me integrity is worth fighting for! In the ministry world it is vital that a minister is decisive when it comes to establishing moral boundaries.

Morality impacts relationships positively or negatively. A follower of Christ is called to be pure in heart (Matthew 5:8) and to be above reproach (1 Timothy 3:2). Paul writes about the qualifications of an overseer (or leader). The statement, "above reproach" has the term "must" in front of it.

For me, I've made some "must" decisions on boundaries when it comes to morals:

- Be  a person of my word. My goal is that if I tell someone "yes" or "no" I will follow through with my word (Matthew 5:37). Pride leads to rationalizing the excuses why we cannot have integrity with our word.

- Keep my conscience clear - In life, conflict is inevitable. How we resolve conflict is facing it with grace and truth. Forgiveness must be the currency of our lives as Christians. This means when we are wrong, go to the person and ask for forgiveness. It also means to release people who have hurt you! Paul wrote,"I strive always to keep my conscience clear before God and man." Acts 24:16

- Never ride with a woman alone in a car without my wife. It is a commitment I made to my wife to be above reproach. Billy Graham set a great example to not ride alone in an elevator with a woman other than his wife. Some would say this is drastic, but he is a man of integrity. I do not back down from this because I love my wife and never want to damage my marriage, friends and ministry.

- My wife has all my passwords on all social networking, emails and computer. Integrity says that "I have nothing to hide, I am an open book." Integrity opens the door to trusting relationships.

- I do not counsel women or female students alone. It is imperative that women counsel with women and men counsel with men. For instance, it is wise to counsel alongside my wife Cassidy so she is able to become close emotionally with the female student. The danger that arises in any relationship is the emotions. Many leaders in churches have fallen due to an emotional attraction that led to physical. You see, emotions lead to the physical. Men of God, stand for integrity and make a plan to not put yourself in slippery situations that could damage your family, ministry and ultimately your relationship with God!

- Always have a "Paul" in my life (1-2 Timothy). I have a few mentors in my life who ask me the hard questions. I am grateful for family and friends in my life that keep me accountable. Every church leader must have a mentor, no matter their age or experience. It is also important to have a "Timothy" as well to mentor at the same time.

One of my favorite characters in the Bible is Daniel. He exemplified a life of integrity (Daniel 6:4) that left the accusers silent!

Are you a person of integrity? Are you an "open book?" We need to fight FOR integrity no matter what. It is a battle worth fighting!